Learning to let it go

Recently, I went to a course, it was called "Love yourself", and what I have found out in this course is that, we all carry some sort of baggage. But the good part is that you decide if you want to carry it on, or just let it go. You see, there are so many times that something happens outside our control, someone makes a remark, someone makes a bad or mean comment, etc, and we just react to it, without even thinking. Why, these things are coming from other people, so WHY do we get bothered by them. Because maybe, they are saying what we think of ourselves in a certain measure. It happened to me so many times. I felt insecure about lots of things and, guess what, people were, and still are picking on me, regarding those insecurities. And I even saw myself picking on other people the same way. That is because we can feel when a person is insecure of something and we tend to point out the thing the other person tries to hide. So the next question arises, what should we do, how do we get over our insecurities ?

The solution

Now, coming back to the course. I have learned that everything we feel comes from within us, and since I understood this, I felt a lot more in control. And the solution is so simple. Just let it go, just let the feelings that come, go. You finally put down the weights that you've been carrying for so long. How ? The guy who was holding the course Kris Dillard, taught us how to open the door and let the feelings go. Let's do this exercise now shall we? Firstly, close your eyes, and think about a situation that bothers you, it may be your stupid math teacher, it might be the idiot who hit your car in the morning, whatever, now feel that there is some resistance coming up. And as you feel the resistance coming, just imagine that you open a door in front of you, or a window, and just imagine that feeling going out that door or window, and just thank it for showing you something that you might have not known about yourself. You may feel lighter, that's a great sign, and just keep letting it go through the window or door, until you are no longer pissed of or bothered by the thought of what happened. How does that feel?

What I have experienced after this exercise, is a feeling of easiness, I felt lighter, and when I thought of the same situation again, I either, felt less bad about, or I I felt that I can handle it. But, how come? It is so simple !!! I let go of my attachment. So many times we attach ourselves to the results that we generate, but, in reality, we are so much more. But, there is a funny paradox, the more you want to do or have something, the harder it is for you to have it. Yet, in the same time, there are lots of people who have this relaxed attitude, that, whatever happens, it's fine. If they want to reach a goal, they go something like "it's great if it happens, it's ok, if it doesn't ", and most of the times they achieve what they want without putting to much effort in. In the mean time the others who want it more, may put in more effort and yet, they seem to fall short. That's something that hits me hard, and now I am learning to let go and be happy with myself whatever happens, it is a process, letting go of everything I want, so that I may learn to be happy with myself. Because, we all know, there are billionaires who are extremely depressed, and then are some poor children in Africa who are happy despite their life conditions. That shows that happiness comes from within, and that's what I want to learn to apply in my life.

As always guys, thank you for your time, I hope you find this article helpful. The exercise presented here is simple as you can see and it can be practiced wherever and whenever, the more you'll do it the better you'll feel.

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